Several posts ago I wrote about some feelings about my divorce and how I felt about my ex's family. Well I hate saying I told you so, but I told ya so.
Recently there was a death in their family and I knew that it was only time before a change would hit my girls lives. You see, my ex hadn't spoken or seen his biological mother for about four years. So, as a favor to the girls and to her, I would let them go over, have weekend sleepovers, be apart of birthdays, holidays, and such only because my ex had his priorities mixed up and his head up his butt. She always told me that she loved him and prayed every night that he would come back into her life. I would then think to myself......and I would become the evil ex-wife.
After this funeral of that loved one, Bethaine came home talking about how her dad went and how he held the casket and how him and his biological mother were now talking. Good for him I thought, but felt upset. The truth surly came out last weekend. See Bethanie was just baptized and I sent invitations to some of my ex's family that I knew would want to be there and help support Bethaine in this decision. Well his biological mother happened to be one of them. Usually she would've called to say whether she could come or not. This time nothing.....in fact she didn't even show up.
Here is were the I told you so comes into play.......if in fact he has reconnected with her, I have become the evil ex-wife. And I have decided to be done!!! It was never my responsibility to let my girls visit her or have her be apart of their lives. From now on it is his responsibility!!! No more bending over backwards to help him or his biological mother out!
The one thing that I have learned in the past five years of being divorced is it doesn't pay to be nice.....cause you just get walked on over and over and over again!!
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